I have not posted for a long time, but wanted to come back and share my thoughts about the good life. In other words, the life that I am now living, on the other side. I used to come here to read about other women's experiences, and hope that I once would have the courage to leave my husband and live my truth. I did it. In fact, I am living my truth right now. Getting here was not painless, but being here is good. More than good. Fantastic. I am lucky. I live in a part of the world where laws protect me, where I can marry the person of my dreams, and otherwise live a peaceful life. Although the process of coming out and leaving my (now) ex-husband was difficult, it was worth it. The most painful part was the period before leaving, telling the kids about the divorce, and having my parents react in their old, not-so-constructive ways. We got through it. I got through it. Now, I live my life as it is supposed to be. It is a quite ordinary life, just as I want it. The only extraordinary thing is that I live with a woman, my girlfriend and wife-to-be. We are getting married this summer. I love her. I am at peace with myself, I have an inner calm that I have never experienced previously. I am supposed to live this way, and I am allowed to, without too many obstacles. So, for those of you who now come to this site to read about other women's experiences, just like I used to do: It is possible. It will be better. You can do it.
As soon as a woman thinks sufficiently fast, one calls it intuition (Barbro Alving)