Post by findingself on Dec 3, 2018 18:01:44 GMT -5
Hartache - thank you so much for posting this!! I watched it last night - and my husband watched some of it too. I was anxious having him watch with me so I may want to watch again by myself. It was so validating and reassuring to see faces of real women and hear in their own words what they went through - and know they got through it. It was also painful to hear about some of the really difficult moments - like kids' reactions. I have so far to go in this process and sometimes (a lot of the time) I feel impatient and isolated. What did you think? I also wish there was a group or a weekend to go to.
I felt the same...validated. And it was positive and uplifting and there was humor in it...which there is, if you can get there amidst the pain. There are some funny moments coming up for you. And more for me too. I am very grateful to be here. You can read that on their faces as well. I have no regrets. That doesn't mean I don't have sorrow. It doesn't mean I'm not sad sometimes and have those bittersweet moments of grief and gratitude. I've never felt more of it. But that's just it. Feeling more. It means everything.
You can make it through this. The journey and heartache is worth it. Everyone has to motor through this how they will. What the journey does is shine a really bright light on your fears and personal insecurities and lack of truths that need to be debunked. It also shows you that you can stand up on your own two feet and be there for yourself.
There are groups. There are weekends. There are latebloomers everywhere. Look for them. Look for support. Find the gay community in your area. Eventually latebloomers are just absorbed into the community. I don't tell everyone my story anymore. I'm just gay. When I go to a gay thing, I'm just another gay. But every gay still has a story. Cause it's still hard even though there is more exposure in our world and supposed acceptance. Especially women "of a certain age." If you sit and talk at these meetups or gatherings, you will hear all kinds of stories. And if you tell yours, it won't be a shock or surprising to anyone. Find that support. A posse, like she said in the doc, is very important.