Post by want2bhappy on Nov 28, 2018 0:39:13 GMT -5
Hi, Is anyone else struggling with knowing if therapy is working? I have a new therapist now who has been the best so far, but what should I be expecting to happen from therapy? She seems like she can see how much I love my gf and how sad I am to leave my marriage, but i’m not sure what I should be working on with her. Every time I see her, I give her an update of what has happened since we last saw each other, and she does bring up some good points that I hadn’t realized, but I guess I’m just thinking in order to get the best out of this, is there something I should be doing each week before I meet her again? Besides just the recap of events. Something I should be preparing for? Has certain types of therapy worked for others on this sight? Or just talk therapy? Thanks!
These are all excellent questions, but they should be asked of your therapist. Her responses will give you information about whether or not you've got a good fit. I'd also spend time reflecting upon what you want out of therapy. By the way, does your therapist have experience with LGBTQ sexuality issues? With coming out?
Remember, the therapist works for you, not the other way around. You always have a right (and should) to ask questions of her. This is especially true with sexuality issues, as there is so much ignorance about it. I once had a mental health care professional blithely announce that I was queer due to childhood abuse issues. NOT helpful. Another therapist - a lesbian - consistently dismissed my bisexuality and issues around religion, topics that are very important to me. These were not good fits. But other therapists have been quite helpful.
The support of a therapist can be invaluable in this process, especially for women who don't have any meaningful contact with the lesbian community. Best to you.
The most important thing for me has been the sense that someone is really listening, and not just listening, but HEARING. There's a big difference. The second thing is having someone who inspires you to go deeper into who you are and can help clear away beliefs that don't fit your highest good.