Hi— I’m the MGF of a woman who is divorcing her husband. I have not decided what I am doing in my own marriage, but want to continue to see this women. When she was also married we were in the same place; but she has now decided to leave her marriage. She, of course, wants me to do the same and stay with her. I don’t know where I stand yet, I want some time to work through this; Ive been married most of my adult life to this man and it is not a decision I can make lightly. We decided to just be friends while working thru our decisions, marriages, but when seeing each other this week ended up in bed. Im so confused; do I continue to see her? Am I leading her on? Hurting her? I Need advice.
Bis- I think you should take your time making a decision like this. As Joann said in her book don't leave for anyone else but for you so that if the relationship doesn't work out you don't regret your decision to leave the marriage. It is difficult to make a clean break from someone you still love and who loves you. The back and forth is not uncommon. I think you should be sincere with her that you are not ready to leave your marriage and let her decide what she wants to do. But take your time deciding. It is a life changing decision.