Post by tattercoats on Sept 28, 2016 17:28:19 GMT -5
So, H is being very supportive and has suggested we take the kids to a local pride event this weekend. Though I love the idea of going, and the kids are up for it, I'm terrified. I'm not out to anyone but H. I just feel so nervous about it all. I'm not sure I'm brave enough just yet. Will I ever be brave enough?
Going with H and the kids would be WONDERFUL I think. It would expose the kids (and you!) to the LGBT culture, in a realllly fun environment, while letting you act as bold or as hidden as you want. You could be a silent observer in the "safety" of looking like a hetero family. If you feel too weird, you can always leave. I'd say go for it, even if you have to make something up like an imaginary brother who is gay and you're there supporting him. Baby steps are better than no steps. Good luck!
Post by lavenderandroses on Sept 29, 2016 5:15:13 GMT -5
Good luck Tattercoats. You are being brave. I am thinking of going to an lgbt social event with my friend, who labels herself bisexual and is comfortable with it all. My husband is supportive on this. Maybe this is a necessary part of self-acceptance - I'm not sure. Perhaps you can just say that you are a friend and supporter of the lgbt community if you are not feeling like you want to make some sort of public declaration. I think we all have our own comfort levels of who and when to be "out" to. You have to be very sure I think that that is what you want as once said, you can't unsay it.
Post by tattercoats on Sept 29, 2016 17:38:40 GMT -5
Thank you all!
The kids all want to go as one colour of the rainbow each!
I'm going to take a deep breath and go, I think. I could spend years wondering whether I'm brave enough.
I took a baby step today. I spoke to girl on the LGBT stand at the freshers' fayre at the uni I'm studying at and got myself a rainbow pin badge for my lanyard. She seemed rather bemused by it all - I'm a bit old to be a fresher, I look like your stereotypical heterosexual mum with kids. I think gaining acceptance anywhere will be tough.
Post by helpplease on Sept 30, 2016 6:08:09 GMT -5
tattercoats, it's so wonderful you're family is so supportive. You are a very brave person. it's great that your family knows exactly what you need and is giving you this little push you need. it is a raw and vulnerable position but you will only find lots of support and acceptance at pride. Have a beautiful day!!!
Post by tattercoats on Oct 1, 2016 14:33:46 GMT -5
We went and we watched the parade and stayed for a bit of the party afterwards. There was even a real fire engine in rainbow colours which blew bubbles out of the back, which my children loved! They all grabbed their free sunglasses and whistles and rainbow flags and had a great time. I was amazed to see how many supporters turned out to run stalls! It was fun and I felt right at home there. I've broken the ice now - our next pride event will be easier.