Just curious, has anyone come out on social media? What did you say? What were some reactions? Did you just mention your sexual orientation or did you include details about being in a relationship with your gf?
I'm ready to start coming out to family and close friends, but am somewhat nervous that once i do, rumors are going to start or that someone else will "out" me. I want to own it and not let anyone take it from me. FB would be a good way to do so. Also, My STBHX and I have a lot of mutual friends, since we met in college, and my coming out on FB will affect him as well. To what degree is it necessary that everyone in the world knows? What's practical? Trying to prepare myself! Thanks friends!
Last Edit: Jun 16, 2016 22:31:45 GMT -5 by picasso6
I think this is a really good topic. My experience is that one is never done coming out. It's a lifelong thing. So I don't know that announcing it on Facebook will make it any easier. In some ways, it gives you less control, because it's a permanent written record. Employers are now checking job candidates' FB pages to learn how they act in the world. With no federal protections got LGBTQ people (yet), that's something to consider. I'm a fan of in-person disclosure.
I believe that's true. You most likely will be coming out for the rest of your life. I have to over and over again. In fact, the homeless guy just asked me where my husband was. I told him to give me my buck back.
When I came out I was taking a break from FB so I just let the rumor mill have its way with me. So when I got back on Facebook I didn't need to make an announcement. But I do absolutely use it and post gay articles and support. I was really afraid the first time I did it. But it signaled to people that I was open to come to for help or just support and solace. And people came out of the woodwork to contact me.
So I started using FB as a political forum for gayness, especially Mormon LGBTQ youth as there is a huge suicide and homelessness risk for them. And this in part feels like what my life is meant for and understanding the journey I've been on. And every time someone reaches out to me it heals one of my broken pieces. I hope I'm helping people, but I know for sure they are helping me.
Whatever you write should be solidly and authentically you. It should completely reflect what you are about and what you are made of. You have to be able to stand behind it and support it. I catch some shit sometimes from posts. But I control my wall and its contents and will delete their comments at will. Sometimes my mom tries to post Mormon religious stuff on there...delete. I don't let anyone fight on my wall. If you want to discuss something, call me if you dare or message me. Not too many will mess with it anymore.
Be prepared for the consequences and make choices one by one. Since I came from a little Mormon town that wasn't educated and steeped in homophobia, I've become the poster child for gayness. People call me about things I still struggle to understand. A boy from HS that I haven't spoke with for 25 years called me not long ago. His son came out to him and told him he felt like he was a girl. He said all kinds of ignorant things. I let him and just listened because he was confused and hurting. Another friend from HS called to tell me he was attracted to transwomen and he was full of shame and he said all kinds of ignorant things. And I called him on it. Because he needed to understand that it wasn't a perversion and anything disgusting. That those women should be treated with respect and honored just like any other.
When I post I think about what my intention is. Where it is coming from inside of me. Am I angry? I think that's okay but you have to own it and know there will be consequences.
Good luck. Hope it goes well for you.
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Post by Amazingsweetness41 on Jun 18, 2016 9:23:49 GMT -5
Picasso6, I want to remind you of all the strength you have gained to "own" your story. This is "your" story. How you decide to share it should be in a way that feels right to you. A way that feels most comfortable. I think honesty is the best policy with the people that are most important to you.
There will always be those that will judge or not like what you have to say. My advice, Take it with a grain of salt. These are people that you should not have in your life anyway.
The bottom line in my opinion, is this is your journey, it's about you and the life you want to live. Keep that as your main focus. Honor the truths in your heart moving forward. Life is too short not to.