Post by MCM3 on Nov 18, 2014 19:02:18 GMT -5
So Ive been taking some small steps toward coming out. For a woman with little patience I sure move slowly sometimes- but I have a long horizon. Since I'm a voracious reader I just today joined a lesbian on-line reading/writing group. I found it because I reached out to one of my favorite authors about beta-reading and she gave me the connection. One of the next steps I am thinking about is coming out to a new friend. She is not part of my usual friendship group, we met through my work. I know she has at least one gay relative, so I know the actual gay won't freak her out. She's not yet embedded in my life so if she does freak out that I'm not who I appear to be, I'm not losing much in the way of what I have, just losing the potential for what looks like it could be a fun friendship. Shes not a biig mouth so I don't worry about her spreading it all over town. I'm also thinking about coming out to an old friend who I will get to see on Saturday. Again, it's not someone embedded in my daily life so it feels safer. So far my sisters know and so does my best friend from high school. A friend here in town also knows. She is a dear friend, but has a lot going on in her life, so isn't part of my daily existence. She was terrific about it. I feel like slowly expanding my circle of who knows will help. I know there is the risk that he news could run around town and I'd be out way faster than I want to be, but right now I feel like the two new people I want to tell aren't risks in that way.