Post by learn2live on Oct 18, 2013 12:56:00 GMT -5
Yesterday afternoon I won tickets to a concert tonight. I had been really bummed about not getting to go and so it is SUPER exciting that I won and can take my girlfriend tonight. Only about 20 minutes ago our new director at work said, "So we are going to this concert tonight..." and I about died. No one at work knows I am lesbian. There is one person who could probably guess, but the rest only see the changes I've made as support of a couple of friends (I cut my hair short in support of someone's illness, and I wear pride jewelry in support of our janitor who just learned he is HIV positive). I refuse to NOT hold my girl's hand or even get a kiss or two if the atmosphere is right, but I will definitely be out at work after tonight now. I'll be fine. There are a couple of people who will probably stop talking to me which is sad. But I guess I don't have to worry about watching what I say at all any more either!
Hey L2L, dont know if you are there yet or not as no idea re time differences but thinking of you! Enjoy the concert. Be yourself. You seem such a gentle and generous soul, I hope that your workmates continue to relate to you as you. Very hard to be outed before you are ready but in the way of the world, some good will come no doubt. With love, X
Find out who you are and be that person. That's what your soul was put on this earth to be. Find that truth, live that truth and everything else will come. Ellen DeGeneres
Post by learn2live on Oct 19, 2013 16:36:55 GMT -5
Aww, ladies, I love all of you! You are so supportive and sweet! So let me tell you about my clearly homophobic boss....
Watching people arrive (because we got to be there early thanks to how I won the tickets!), we noticed that there were TONS of lesbian couples coming. Who knew that this was the right place to be? Lol! Did not see the boss (J), so relaxed and found a new favorite band (Harper Blynn, they have an amazing sound, and I LOVE them!). Then at the set change, we went to the restroom, and as we got in line, J was coming out. I saw her eyes and she clearly saw me and very studiously ignored me as she passed. Note, I was holding hands with my girl at that moment. So when we came back out of the restroom, we saw J in one of the concession stand lines. And we started joking about the things I *could* say to her (Girlfriend's idea was that I go over and start to shake her hand and then stop suddenly and say, "Oh, no sorry, I can't touch you, I've got a bad case of the GAY!" at which I about fell over laughing!). The set up of the venue was such that we could intercept her on her way back into the concert, so we decided to do just that. I wanted this over with and no nasty rumors spread based on misinformation.
We were able to have a great conversation with the radio station host from the place where I won my tickets AND watch for J at the same time. As she was coming up toward us, she "noticed" my girlfriend and smiled at her as you would any other stranger with whom you have just made unexpected eye contact, and then her eyes swept over to the entrance of the venue across the hall. Again a very strong attempt to not have to converse... But I yelled her name, and she acted all surprised to see me. I played nice, of course, and very clearly introduced her to "MY GIRLFRIEND" so there was no mistake. Oh, she played it well, because that is one thing all of my coworkers have noticed about this woman (oh, I should tell you she is not well liked by the core group of coworkers of which I am a part), she is very good at playing the "correct" role in any given situation. I am pretty sure that the other people she brought into our work area (her minions, as we call them!) knew about my relationship within ten minutes of the end of the concert, IF she waited to let them know!
Anyway, I was perfectly comfortable with the introduction and oh, I met her daughter (adult, yes), and on Monday morning, I plan to tell her how pretty her daughter is! Ooh, I am so rotten! Lol! I felt fearless, and actually happy that there is no need to trip over my tongue wondering if I just said the wrong thing and outed myself at work anymore!
And by the way, Sara Bareilles is AMAZING live in concert! It was so incredible, and fun, and I had the absolute best time. And, yes, Brave is my new personal anthem. If you don't know it, or if you just want to listen again if you do: ... L9HsvEgwZO
Post by learn2live on Oct 23, 2013 10:51:59 GMT -5
It's an odd week, and the supervisor hasn't been on location. There are workshops off-site, and I will be going to that location later today, so this will be the first time I will see her since the concert. I think I may have been "out-er" than I thought because I let something slip (kind of on purpose to see how it would sit) with someone (not one of the supervisor's "minions") today and she was not surprised at all.
I'll update again once I have crossed paths with the supervisor.
Post by learn2live on Oct 25, 2013 12:28:25 GMT -5
Strangely enough, the director has stopped by my cubicle twice to discuss the concert and some of the specific songs (by the way, have you heard Hercules, also by Sara Bareilles? I am at work and can't access YouTube at all, but it's out there - if you have any time or interest at all, search it and listen!). She has been quite friendly, which is actually new. Not sure why. Not sure I trust it.
However, her minions have actively avoided me all week. Which has been really nice because they usually want me to do extra stuff for them! And our core group is just as cool as ever. So work has been a relatively nice place to be this week. Hmm, wonder if THAT could continue indefinitely! :lol:
hmmm... is this director single? Maybe it struck a familiar cord in her so she is being kind after realizing it...? Ya never know! Or she could be one who sympathizes with the LGBT community and wants to show you support.